Thursday, June 18, 2015

Tempestuous Times

Emotions have a way of affecting how we think, feel, act, and live. They can empower us or break us down. Bring us great confusion or unexpected clarity. Instill in us a sense of conflict or a moment of peace. 

As of late, my emotions have been quite a bit more uncontrollable than usual. My mood swings have gotten more frequent, and more severe. It feels like my mind is trying to tell my body something, sending out some secret message, but I don't know what it says. 

My visits from Stress and Anxiety have made a full blown comeback, as a result, leaving me down and dejected. I wish I could pinpoint the exact cause of these feelings, but in reality, I'm too busy with my crazy summer to actually take the time to sit down and analyze my feelings, my fears, my thoughts, my desires. Or maybe it is that, like some of you I'm sure, we are afraid to explore our true emotions and find out what it is that we really desire, deep down inside. 

It is a scary thing, when you come to realize that what you want may not necessarily be the best thing for you. This is especially so, if what we want could even end up hurting us in the end. But, I believe it is part of our human nature to follow our heart's desires, even when those desires are sometimes not the best idea. But life has a way of teaching us the things we need to learn in the end, even if sometimes those lessons may come at a high price. Everyone wants someone to catch us when we fall, but the sad truth is, we need to learn to pick ourselves up off the ground, because many times, NO one else will.

Life Lesson #1:
Dont' put your trust in other people. The only person you can truly trust 100% is yourself. I have learned time and time again that others will let you down and disappoint you, even if they seem to care. 

Life Lesson #2:
Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Don't lead people on. Don't let them believe something that isn't true, no matter what the circumstances may be.

Life Lesson #3:
If people don't make time for you, they're not worth your time. If someone truly wants you to be a part of their life, they will find the time to spend with you. 

Life Lesson #4:
Don't take everything so seriously. Sometimes, we need to just let loose and have fun. Step out of our comfort zones and try something new. Stop worrying about how others will perceive you or what they will think of you.

Life Lesson #5:
The only opinion that truly matters is your own. At the end of the day, you should only pay attention to if YOU are okay with your actions, how you live, and what you think of yourself. Do not listen to the negative criticisms of others, because they will only torment you and affect your self-efficacy and crush your spirits.

Life Lesson #6:
Stop overthinking, overcompensating, overanalyzing, and replaying every word, action, situation, text message, and conversation you have with others. It will only make you miserable and can sometimes create a problem that wasn't even there.

Life Lesson #7:
The most beautiful thing you can wear is a smile. Even if you don't feel like smiling on the inside, if you smile on the outside, it can better your mood, and brighten not only your day, but that of those around you as well.

Life Lesson #8:
Confidence is KEY. Believing in yourself helps boost self-esteem, and will attract others to you. People flock to those who are confident and capable individuals, so stop doubting yourself, and start envisioning the best version of you.

Life Lesson #9:
Sometimes you need to take a moment and JUST breathe. Step back from a tense situation. Stop and think about what you are going to say before you speak. Sometimes this means sleeping on a situation and reassessing it afresh in the morning. A clear head is always better than a heated one. Things spoken in anger often lead to to greatest regrets.

Life Lesson #10:
Stop living in the past, because it will only cause you to sabotage your future. If you want things to be different, don't compare them to the past. Learn to let go and let good things happen. Past mistakes and painful memories make you stronger only if you remember the lessons you learned and let go of the negative feelings. 

Life Lesson #11:

Life is short, so forgive and forget. Don't live with regret.

These are just a few of the numerous lessons I have learned throughout my life. There are always many more to be learned everyday, but I just wanted to share a few of them with you. Until next time, here is a word of advice...
Carpe Diem,
Marian

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